Every time I read this quotation, it always reminds me of another famous by-line…. In search of a greener pasture…. For me it is always nice for people to dream and aim high… to look forward to a better tomorrow, provided that it is not out of envy or jealousy…. And you don’t run over other people or step on other people’s toes so to speak….
Each and every one of us are unique, we are given our individual talents, we all have purpose in our lives… all we have to do is believe in our selves and strive…. Eventually we will have get to where we want to be…. With God’s grace
Quote to live by:
Envy comes from people’s ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts.- Jean Vanier
Sunday, April 6, 2008
COUNTING OUR BLESSINGS
A lot of people I met usually complain whenever they are faced with something that they are not familiar with; much more when they are faced with problems. Unfortunately some people don’t take trials lightly and unaware how to handle them, reasons why we here in the news that some, even a few well known personalities has committed suicide….
I sincerely believe that it all depends on how we look at life’s perspective differently…. As form me I have learned to count my blessings…. For one am lucky enough to have a loving and supportive family, able to land a good job that provides our basic needs plus a bit of comfort… I have learned to count my blessing beginning from the day that I open my eyes, thanking God for another day that He affords me with, until night fall and when I lay down in bed to go to sleep, for I was given the opportunity to take my days worth of challenges and managed to survive it….
Quote to live by:
God brings men into deep waters not to drown them, but to cleanse them. - Aughey
I sincerely believe that it all depends on how we look at life’s perspective differently…. As form me I have learned to count my blessings…. For one am lucky enough to have a loving and supportive family, able to land a good job that provides our basic needs plus a bit of comfort… I have learned to count my blessing beginning from the day that I open my eyes, thanking God for another day that He affords me with, until night fall and when I lay down in bed to go to sleep, for I was given the opportunity to take my days worth of challenges and managed to survive it….
Quote to live by:
God brings men into deep waters not to drown them, but to cleanse them. - Aughey
Saturday, April 5, 2008
FORGIVENESS
it is not easy to receive nor to give..... many people tend to be difficult to pardon people when they are at fault.... but at times it really is, especially when i hear the common excuse of most people at fault; "i am only human" something that implies that because we are human we are susceptible to make mistakes??? it is a fact???
never the less, whenever someone asked for forgiveness for any wrongdoing they have done towards me, i can only think of one thing... "if God can forgive who am i not to?"...
quote to live by:
Forgiveness means letting go of the past. - Gerald Jampolsky
never the less, whenever someone asked for forgiveness for any wrongdoing they have done towards me, i can only think of one thing... "if God can forgive who am i not to?"...
quote to live by:
Forgiveness means letting go of the past. - Gerald Jampolsky
on Marriage
i got this from one of my e-mails and i believe it s something worth remembering, especially for us OFWs, who are away from our family most of the times....
This is a nice piece for those who are married, about to get married and for the singles as well who wish to be married. Please take the time to read.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her,Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion,the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage.
anything that is of value in life only multiplies when it is given
This is a nice piece for those who are married, about to get married and for the singles as well who wish to be married. Please take the time to read.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her,Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion,the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage.
anything that is of value in life only multiplies when it is given
ACCEPTANCE
it is such a simple word yet so complex.... i sincerely believe that it is one of the key to happiness and peace of mind.... a lot of people starts complaining for one simple reason... they can not accept the truth or the fact at hand... t
it is my humble opinion that we will be living in a much better and peaceful society if everybody will learn to accept the many things that people tend to oppose... we should accept the fact that there are things that we can change, and there are those that we can not... and we therefore need to differentiate them from one another....
quote to live by:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. - Reinhold Niebuhr
it is my humble opinion that we will be living in a much better and peaceful society if everybody will learn to accept the many things that people tend to oppose... we should accept the fact that there are things that we can change, and there are those that we can not... and we therefore need to differentiate them from one another....
quote to live by:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. - Reinhold Niebuhr
HAPPINESS....
I always believe in the saying that "Happiness is a state of mind". it's odd to think that statistics shows that a lot of few are unhappy all over the world when it is simple a state of mind.... what seems to be making people think so much that they are unable to leave themselves happy???
there are many things in my opinion that should make everybody happy. for me despite being away from my family, i can still make every single hour of the day almost as happy if not as happy if i am with my family.... happy thought of our happy moments keeps a smile in my face... the thought that all the hard works i am doing is to give them a bit of comfort and a better future makes me happy... but nothing makes me happier than opening my eyes in the morning and seeing the ceiling above me; for it meant another happy day ahead of me.... and i can look forward to the day that i will be taking my annual vacation and spend every single day of it with my loved one...
quote to live by:
There is no duty so much underrated as the duty of being happy. - Robert Louis Stevenson
there are many things in my opinion that should make everybody happy. for me despite being away from my family, i can still make every single hour of the day almost as happy if not as happy if i am with my family.... happy thought of our happy moments keeps a smile in my face... the thought that all the hard works i am doing is to give them a bit of comfort and a better future makes me happy... but nothing makes me happier than opening my eyes in the morning and seeing the ceiling above me; for it meant another happy day ahead of me.... and i can look forward to the day that i will be taking my annual vacation and spend every single day of it with my loved one...
quote to live by:
There is no duty so much underrated as the duty of being happy. - Robert Louis Stevenson
Friday, April 4, 2008
PEACE OF MIND.....
everybody deserve to have peace of mind... but unfortunately this is something that seems to elude most of us if not all of us ...many factors affects our state of mind.... and the sate of our mind affects every single thing that we do single hour of the day....
i always tell my friends who asked me for advices "never do anything that you will regret in the later stage of your life" therefore it is always important to think things over.... as the saying goes "think before you act"
i always get asked by my friends and relatives why do i seem to be unaffected by many things that happens around me, the country and the world in general... my simple answer to them is why should i get affected??? i always tell them that my simple principle in life is that God has given us the wisdom to change the things we can, and accept the thing we can't.... and having this in mind at all times gives me a bit of peace of mind....
Quote to live by:
The mind is never right but when it is at peace within itself - Lucius Annaeus Seneca
i always tell my friends who asked me for advices "never do anything that you will regret in the later stage of your life" therefore it is always important to think things over.... as the saying goes "think before you act"
i always get asked by my friends and relatives why do i seem to be unaffected by many things that happens around me, the country and the world in general... my simple answer to them is why should i get affected??? i always tell them that my simple principle in life is that God has given us the wisdom to change the things we can, and accept the thing we can't.... and having this in mind at all times gives me a bit of peace of mind....
Quote to live by:
The mind is never right but when it is at peace within itself - Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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